Ross Douthat, who is considered an opinion columnist, wrote a piece for the New York Times called “The Redistribution of Sex” which basically asks the age-old question “what’s wrong with feeling entitled to sex?” To which every assaulted sex worker and woman collectively flips you off.
Vivian has already written an excellent piece about the “Incel Rebellion” and their women-hating, because “Stacys” would rather date “Chads” than them. As a result, they decided to abstain from sex voluntarily (even though the name they’ve chosen is short for “involuntary celibate”) because how dare the women that meet their ridiculous standards not see how special they are? If only the hag feminists would stop telling women to have standards and self-love.
Douthat had decided to take up the baton in favor of understanding these men because, as he states in his opening paragraph (emphasis mine): “One lesson to be drawn from recent Western history might be this: Sometimes the extremists and radicals and weirdos see the world more clearly than the respectable and moderate and sane.”
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Douthat brings up the argument made by Robin Hanson, an economist and libertarian who commented on the terrorist violence in Toronto: “If we are concerned about the just distribution of property and money, why do we assume that the desire for some sort of sexual redistribution is inherently ridiculous?”
Hanson goes on to say, “One might plausibly argue that those with much less access to sex suffer to a similar degree as those with low income, and might similarly hope to gain from organizing around this identity, to lobby for redistribution along this axis and to at least implicitly threaten violence if their demands are not met.”
Excuse me, I have to go laugh until I puke. I’m glad that this “economist” thinks that less access to sex is somehow equatable to being in a low income bracket, but let’s just make something clear: this isn’t about redistribution of sex; this is about entitlement to sex. Somehow, in “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness,” the right to ejaculate was apparently implied.
So let me ask, what about the women in this case? I mean, can you imagine what would happen if a group of women decided to band together and say we want a redistribution of orgasms? That we have the right to at least 20-30 minutes of oral sex? That we want you to treat our vaginas with the same thoughtful attention you give to a puzzle in Zelda?
Until the Toronto attack, “Incels” were treated as a sad boy joke that only the crazy feminists were concerned about, because not until Jack the Ripper is actually out slitting women open do people even get concerned about what happens when women try to navigate freely in the world. It should shock me that, in such a short period of time people, have decided to focus on trying to have empathy for this self-imposed problem.
Douthat then tries to bring the argument around to people “left-leaning and feminist readers” would have sympathy for: “the overweight and disabled, minority groups treated as unattractive by the majority, trans women unable to find partners and other victims, in her narrative, of a society that still makes us prisoners of patriarchal and also racist-sexist-homophobic rules of sexual desire.”
As a black woman, which I’m gonna assume is in that “minority groups treated as unattractive by the majority” pile, I can say, do I get upset about beauty standards that put me below a basic Susan? 100%. Do I feel like I am entitled to any man or woman because of it? No. I stunt. I learned, and am constantly learning, to be confident in my own skin, be happy with my body, and know that if someone doesn’t want to be with because I’m black … fuck ’em.
I can’t speak for any other marginalized group, but what I will assume is that none of them want sex because of entitlement. They just don’t want to be defined by what makes them an “other.” They don’t want to be abused, taken advantaged of, or in the case of trans women, murdered.
Let’s not bring marginalized issues into what is, overwhelmingly, a white, cis, straight man-pain “movement.”
Never mind that they hate women, are repulsed by sex workers, and feel an entitlement to be desired by any woman they want, but the proposed solution to keeping women safe isn’t teaching men to respect women, teaching to have sex in a healthy way, encouraging them to actually develop personalities and interests outside of their dicks. Nope. Douthat’s brilliant suggestions:
“Which brings me to the sex robots.”
i’m gonna design sex robots with such advanced AI that they still reject incels
— i bless the rains down in Castamere (@Chinchillazllla) May 2, 2018
“Whether sex workers and sex robots can actually deliver real fulfillment is another matter. But that they will eventually be asked to do it, in service to a redistributive goal that for now still seems creepy or misogynist or radical, feels pretty much inevitable,” Douthat argues.
Anytime the “let’s spend millions of dollars on building robots to fuck” issue comes up, I just think, “Haven’t enough sci-fi premises told you this is stupid and won’t end well?”
Never mind that it doesn’t get to the root of the issue, the fact that men want to have full control over women, their minds and their bodies, just because they want to. Their ideology is nebulous, but it centers around the misogynist idea that women are sub-human villains who will bestow sex on only the most attractive and/or rich of men, and that it’s unfair because men don’t treat women this way—despite their entire grievance being centered around not getting sex from women they find attractive. They have nothing to offer or to give, but they want so much from women because they have convinced themselves that they are worth that.
Giving them robot women, rewarding them for their narcissism and violence is not the answer, because I can almost promise you that they will not accept that solution. They want to control, not to love.
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Published: May 3, 2018 12:54 pm